Sleep With Me

Episode 14

At a point in my life, I felt hopeless. I thought “husband” wasn’t meant for me. Little did I know that “MY DELAY WASN’T A DENIAL”.

The fact that you’ve been praying to God about something for so long without answer doesn’t mean God has denied you.

Sometimes, we don’t understand how God works. All we need to do as fellow human beings is just to hand over everything into the hands of God to take absolute control because, God understands better than we do.

So, beloved, leave everything into the hands of God. Don’t stop praying to God about that issue. Don’t stop trusting Him because your delay is not your denial. He will surely answer your petitions.

Back to my story

Before my man came in place, especially at the beginning of my life as a graduate without suitors, I drank tears like water. I remember how I soaked my pillow with tears almost every night because of the fact that no responsible guy had ever asked me out despite the fact that I was beautiful. The fact that most of my mates got married before me broke me down.

“Lord why?” Had always been my cries.

On one fateful day, I attended a conference tagged “purpose before patner”. The conference really made an indelible mark in my life. My life experienced a great turn around. I became more intentional about my life.

At that point, I changed my prayer point from “Lord give me my own husband” to “Lord, what is my purpose in life. Why did you create me…?”

Lo and Behold, I discovered my purpose in life. Not only discovering it, I developed my purpose. After I developed my purpose in life, I deployed it.

You know what?

If you haven’t discovered your purpose in life, please don’t venture into marriage.

Purpose first before marriage. If not, you will settle for any man or woman in marriage if you haven’t discovered who you truly are.

Beloved, not everyone can afford you. Not every man or woman can support your vision. You are not meant for everyone and that’s why you need to discover who you are.

As a lady, I promised myself not to be a liability to my husband. I learnt a lot of skills coupled with my work as an Accountant in an organisation.

Not only that, I honed my culinary skills. I learnt how to prepare intercontinental dished. I learnt how to prepare various delicacies.

During my waiting period, I developed my spiritual antenna. As a lady or wife to be, it is expedient for you to be spiritually strong because you are the gate to your home.

It was during those period I really prayed fervently for my unborn children, my future and lot more.

It was during those periods I really read and meditated on the scriptures.

You know what?

There are many things you can do while still single. The time is always there for you to do a lot of things. As soon as you enter into marriage, the time may not be really there because your husband or wife, children, work etc will share your time.

That is why as singles, maximise this opportunity very well. Use your single days well. While single, build your future.

Discover your purpose in life. There is a reason why God placed you on this planet. You were not born by mistake.

Learn skills.

Add values to yourself.

Build your spiritual capability.

Be emotionally strong.

And to everyone looking for jobs, please be wise. You really need God to help you. No man can help you. Sleeping with a man for job will not solve the issue. Remember, it is an abominable act before God. So, don’t do such a thing. Rather, keep trusting God.

Ladies, don’t sleep with a man all in the name of “I love you” before marriage. Keep yourself for your man.

Not every man that says “sleep with me” to prove your love will later get married to you. Some are interested in using you and dumping you. That is why you really need to be wise.

A man who truly loves you and who is really yours will not ask you “sleep with me” before marriage.

If you have been involved in such act before now, you really need to ask God to forgive you because you have sinned against God who created your body. And before Him, fornication, adultery is abominable before Him.

To the glory of God, my waiting period was not in vain. God compensated me with the best husband in the world.

So, wait on God.